From mild ticklers to more hardcore nipple-torture, DDlg play and everything in between, BDSM has become a kink catch-all with the most common emphasis being on the dynamics between a Dominant and a submissive. With studies that show benefits like reduced stress and improved intimacy among couples that indulge in BDSM, its no wonder this long-practiced form of erotic play is making its way to the mainstream. For those exploring for the first time, we’ve put together a list of 5 fun things you can do with your sub (or with your Dom) that will keep the kinky fun going strong.

1. Fun with Toys

If variety is the spice of life, then having a good collection of toys is a sure-fire way to make it extra caliente in the bedroom. Cuffs, gags, spreader bars, paddles, floggers – there are so many styles and types to choose from. Pro Tip: Up the ante and go shopping for toys together. Not only is this a great opportunity to communicate and explore desires and boundaries but also a great way to foreplay and get ready for your next play session.

2. Define a Safe Word

It is a serious decision to put trust in someone as they guide you down the kinky rabbit hole and up again. For many, the psychological side of a D/s relationship and the vulnerability/power that it comes with is a major part of the appeal of BDSM.  Choosing a safe word together allows the sub to bring things to a stop if it becomes too uncomfortable, which is very important for the safety and comfort of everyone involved. Need a safeword idea? Try “avocado”. Hi, Chris 😉 or Sir? or Daddy?

3. Roleplay

Perhaps you are a Dom that prefers to be called Master, Daddy or Sir or a sub that goes by Kitten, Babygirl, Student, Cum Slut or anything in between – taking on a new role can help ease you into a rewarding play session by exploring fun scenarios we normally might not be a part of like fucking the pizza delivery guy or getting hot for teacher. Whether you deem your sub needs to be punished or rewarded, roleplaying is an exciting way to fulfill certain fantasies and let your imagination run wild.

4. Bondage

The art of bondage, or using ropes, handcuffs and chains to restrain your partner is a popular form of play within the BDSM community. It is important to always establish boundaries and safe words before entering riskier forms of kinky play as it can result in injury. Being restrained can often feel quite liberating for submissives. Bondage is a fun time to explore orgasm control, spanking and whatever else you can think of.

5. Aftercare      

Partaking in an intense D/s play session can sometimes be emotionally and physically taxing on a submissive, leaving them exhausted and feeling what’s often referred to as “subdrop”. From communication to cuddling to caring for their body, mastering and generously providing aftercare to your sub is one of the best ways to make sure they keep coming back.